I’ve always been stubborn. To a fault.

It’s served me well in some instances. In others, in retrospect it became clear that I should have cut my losses and walked away. From the situation. From the relationship. From the issue.

There’s an old saying: Never wrestle with a pig. You both get muddy and the pig likes it.

There are some situations it’s better to walk around from, not start to wrestle, and stay out of the mud.

I’m still working on finding the right balance of not giving up but also knowing when to admit defeat and in the immortal words of Princess Elsa from Disney’s Frozen, to “Let It Go.”

I understand some parents have justifiable concerns about the song lyrics and its philosophy of ‘stop obeying your parents and do what you want.’ I totally see that as problematic for a young girl.

On the other hand, as a grown woman who spends far too much time trying to figure out what to do when in order to please everyone, it’s very liberating to realize I only have to please three people: God, me, and my husband. In that order.

So much easier said than done.