In the aftermath of last week’s election, a “movement” has gathered momentum on the Internet and Facebook. It’s the safety pin. It’s supposed to signify that the person wearing the pin is “safe,” to approach and talk to. I guess about anything that’s upsetting you, but is meant especially for the non-white non-heterosexual crowds.
I can see why wearing the pin would be appealing.
But, please, don’t.
Who would ever approach a stranger with the intention of baring their soul? Unless they were paying $125 an hour for the privilege?
No one, except a true bigot/racist/hate monger looking for a target for their hate.
Don’t be a target.
Being “safe” for someone means having a relationship with them. It means talking together, laughing and crying together, having coffee and sharing a blueberry scone together.
I’m reminded of the C.S. Lewis quote from THE LION, THE WITCH, AND THE WARDROBE. Susan asked Mr. Beaver about Aslan the lion: “Is he–quite safe?” Mr. Beaver replied, “Safe? … ‘course he isn’t safe. But he’s good.”
I guarantee there are enough hurting people in your home, in your workplace, in your neighborhood, in your community. You don’t have to go looking for someone to be safe to or to be a listening ear.
Instead, look around you. Find someone hurting. Take them to coffee. Be in their life. Love them.
Don’t be safe.